ADHD & Self-esteem: The Struggle is Real

Do you struggle with low self esteem 😔 ? Because of the many negative feedback they get during their life, many people with ADHD are constantly struggling with low self-esteem 🙁 But if you do, remember this : You are not alone 💕 There are ways to regain your confidence ☺️ Build your self esteem a little bit everyday, it will get better ☀️ !

Table of Contents

~ 1. The Hard Truth About ADHD

~ Effects of Negative Feedback for ADHD brains

~ Low Self Esteem

~ Regaining Lost Confidence

The Hard Truth About ADHD

People with ADHD aren't safe from criticisms and hurtful comments. In fact, they are often referred to with unnecessary descriptions that are sometimes hurtful and out of line. All of these things may be very far from the truth, and that's why it's important to know what ADHD is and how it can affect one's self-esteem.

Effects of Negative Feedback for ADHD brains

people with adhd receive many negative feedback about their traits

The criticisms that we might receive from others and the thoughts that other people might throw at us can affect our self-esteem significantly. This is because our ADHD minds might start to believe in the criticisms and thoughts of other people, thinking that we're different or inadequate even when we know that we're not. Our ADHD brain might start to tell us that we're different from other people and that even if we try our best to be accepted, there's still a chance that we might get rejected.

Low Self Esteem

that's why many of us struggle with low self esteem

And when continuous mistakes are pointed at us, and countless criticisms and negative feedback come our way, our self-esteem takes an even bigger hit. People with ADHD might start to believe that they aren't good enough and that no matter what we do or how much effort we put into improving ourselves or doing something, we might accept the fact that they'll probably put us down, and that they'll continue to do so. We stop believing our own thoughts about ourselves.


Regaining Lost Confidence

years of negative feedbacks can have devastating effects on confidence

Years of experiencing negative feedback can have a huge impact on our confidence. However, it does not mean that we should let all the negative talk get to us; it shouldn't. Instead, we should start believing in ourselves because if no one else believes in us, then there's only at least one person who will always maintain faith and hope for us. 

But we can find solutions to regain our self esteem

It might be an uphill challenge, but it is possible to have our confidence back. It just takes a lot of work and effort on our part. Here are some of the ways we can rebuild our self-esteem:

  • Surround yourself with positive people who truly understand you.
  • Find a mentor or role person that has the same condition as us. Many people with ADHD are talented and successful.
  • Understand your strengths and turn them into areas of expertise.
  • Don't beat yourself up and be kind to your ADHD brain.
  • Embrace your own way of doing things, create new paths with the creativity that a person with ADHD might possess
like finding mentors and role models that are like us
understand your strengths
and embrace your own way of doing things



Table of Contents

~ 1. The Hard Truth About ADHD

~ Effects of Negative Feedback for ADHD brains

~ Low Self Esteem

~ Regaining Lost Confidence

Disclaimer: This article is for educational purposes only. If you are experiencing symptoms of ADHD, it’s best to see a professional for a diagnosis.

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