ADHD Indecisiveness

Overcoming Indecisiveness in ADHD Adults

While ADHD is often associated with hyperactivity, indecision is a lesser-known but equally paralyzing symptom. Many adults with ADHD find themselves trapped in a cycle of indecisiveness, struggling to make choices both minor and major. Our article focuses on breaking through this decision paralysis by understanding its roots in ADHD and providing actionable steps to enhance decision-making capabilities. Embracing these strategies could be the turning point for those looking to reclaim control over their choices.

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Alice Gendron

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How Does Being ADHD Indecisive Affect Decision-Making?

ADHD is diagnosed by categorizing into two types of problems: inattentiveness and hyper activeness/impulsiveness. One of the most significant effects for an individual with ADHD is the way we make decisions.

Impulsive decisions, large or small are vital every day. And if you have troubles with that because of your ADHD, we'll share some tips below. But first, let's explain how ADHD affects the decision-making process.

ADHD and Executive Functioning

Executive functioning deficits reduce a person's ability to begin work efficiently. Sometimes a person; who may be an adult or a child will feel paralyzed due to a new job or a project. This can quickly result in overwhelming feelings of procrastination, stress, anxiety, and fear. It can also produce negative reactions from others who are perplexed and irritated by the anomalies that are inherent to someone with ADHD who performs well when the activity is interesting or exciting. It's even more difficult to concentrate on an unpleasant task if the human interest wanders off to more enticing pastimes and emotions.

How to make decisions when my brain makes everything attractive?

ADHDers tend to be constantly distracted by something new. I strongly believe that FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) became a thing mostly due to neuro-diverse people.

ADHDers might get overwhelmed and become paralyzed by the multitude of options.

Remember when Kevin Malone from the Office tries to purchase something from the Vending Machine? 😅

I can't do this... until I do that.

Another recurring issue for people with ADHD that leads to indecisiveness and procrastination is the inability to start something or make a decision because of the "mental barriers" we erect in our minds.

Let me give you an example, there are a few months left for this year and I only need a few nights to keep my Marriott status. So I figured I would just plan a trip, well not so fast...

I've decided to go for a trip but after a few minutes, I realized that planning is so much more complicated. "Where will I go? When? How long should I stay? Who should I go with? Should I bring my pet?"

This is where all of the things we are mentioning in this article are combined to create that indecisiveness. Because there are so many options, every choice is complicated and until you get that one answer, other decisions are delayed.

The thing that neurotypical people don't understand is that on top of the difficulty to make the decisions themselves even when we start making some progress, our ADHD brains are trying to make us change our minds by reminding us of the options we did not choose and making us reconsider.

So it's not necessarily as easy as just making decisions and getting it done, what is important is to make priorities and understand what matters to us so that we can make the right decision and won't second guess.

Going back on my trip choice, I realized that I valued flexibility so I preferred going something closer where I could drive (instead of flying).

I also realized that I had some friends I have not seen in a while and would love to meet up with.

Now that these base decisions are made, I can focus on who do I want to see and plan the trip instead of flip-flopping between unlimited options.

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How to Take Control of Your Decision-Making Process?

Here are some steps you can follow to make better decisions more easily.

Set a deadline for yourself to make a decision. Doing everything clearly will assure the best outcome. Maybe you struggle with perfectionistic tendencies that include the fear of failure, but you should remember that there are no wrong decisions in life, you can make every decision be the right one.

Develop a Decision-Making Matrix

OK, that sounds like a big word 😅. But what does that mean in real life?

Everyone is different so I can't tell you what your exact decision-making matrix should be but I can give you some examples.

The way the decision-making matrix works is that it forces you to ask yourself the questions that matter to you to simplify the decision-making process, force you into moving forward, and give you the structure to not go back on your decision because you "trust the process" 😉.

A popular example of a decision-making tool for your matrix is a pros & cons list.

In my own opinion, I'm personally not the biggest fan of it and feel like it often fails to deliver decisions especially for people with ADHD. It is already one thing to list pros & cons and another is to weigh them against one another.

ADHD Indecisiveness: What my ADHD Brain Sees

If you can do that, it can be your decision-making process: listing the pros & cons, weighing them, then you can decide based on the results.

Another example is the "5 Whys" test.

That's another tool that can help you figure out what you want, thus making the decision-making process clearer.

Some tools are better suited for different situations so I personally like to use a variety of tools depending on certain decisions and situations. I also like to get visual and write/draw things down on paper or whiteboard or create a list online through apps like Miro or Canva.

The most important thing is to not shy away from the idea, to get started and get to the bottom of it in a planned way. As I have said before, stick to the deadline you fixed.

Set Priorities

By setting deadlines & priorities, you back yourself into a corner and trigger the right chemicals in your brain to make decisions.

That's what we have to remember when we have ADHD, that our brain can be playing tricks against us 😅 So we have to play the game to win!

A very popular productivity tip is to prioritize and hold yourself accountable. That's why to-do lists & productivity apps exist and can work.

So make lists, and then prioritize what needs to be done, add a time limit and then stick to it!

ADHD Indecisiveness: A few tips

That's why they tell you to list your tasks, put all the information and rank them. Determine the most urgent ones and do them today before anything else. Rinse & repeat.

You can also think of another management trick to help you stay the course, the SMART goals. I'm not saying you should fill out a form every time you try to do something 😅 but making sure what you are trying to do is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based and it will significantly improve your ability to achieve what you want to achieve.

Ask for Advice

When it's important to you, do not hesitate to find a person you trust and ask them for their feedback and guidance. Make sure that they have your best interest at heart so you can count on them. 🤗

Toss a Coin

When it's not important and you are just wasting time weighing options before deciding, just flip a coin or roll a dice.

As millennials, using coins or dice is not that appealing that's why we invented apps to replace them 😅.

I'm talking about instances where you really can't decide what you prefer and there is no wrong answer like which outfit to wear or what pizza to choose.

Think about all the time you'll save!

Another perk of that tip is that forcing a decision like this can trigger a reaction that tells you what you preferred in the first place.

Make it Fun

You will make decisions faster when your brain enjoys doing it. Turn your decision-making process into a drinking game, reward yourself when you make decisions, involve some friends or family members. Just have fun with it!

How Big of a Decision is it Really?

When you realize that big decisions don't merit an extra effort, then bigger decisions become simple to make.

Can ADHD Cause Bad Decisions?

ADHD doesn't cause bad decision-making, but ADHD symptoms can contribute to making the wrong choice. For example, someone with ADHD might choose a course of action that they enjoy more but is less productive because they are hyper-focused on how interesting it is. ADHD impulsivity might lead to decisions that are risky and can have disastrous consequences.

What Do I Do if I'm Indecisive?

If you're stuck on making a decision, don't just keep mulling it over and over in your head - write down all the options then go for one! It's often easier to make a decision when you're writing it down and seeing everything in front of you. ADHD indecision can be very frustrating, but remember that no matter how much time it takes to make up your mind, it's still better than making the wrong decision.

Does ADHD Affect Decision-Making?

Yes, ADHD affects decision-making in multiple ways like  ADHD impulsivity, ADHD hyper-focus, and ADHD distractibility. ADHD can also affect people's ability to weigh options properly or make a decision that is in line with their long-term goals.

What is ADHD Paralysis?

ADHD paralysis is a term used to describe feelings of being unable to make decisions, often due to ADHD hyper-focus or ADHD impulsivity. People with ADHD may be more likely to experience indecision paralysis than people without ADHD because their ADHD symptoms are influencing the way they process information and make choices.

Is There a Mental Disorder for being Indecisive?

No, it is not a mental disorder per se, but as we've discussed in this article, neurological disorders like ADHD can happen because of indecisiveness.

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ADHD Indecisiveness: FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)

Does ADHD make you indecisive?

ADHD does not make you indecisive per se, but ADHD can contribute to difficulties with making small decisions. The real problem is that other symptoms such as ADHD impulsivity and ADHD hyper-focus can interfere with making the right choice in your daily life.

Does ADHD cause indecisiveness?

No, but there is a connection between poor decision-making and ADHD. This topic deserves further study, as most studies of the relationship between adult ADHD and bad decisions have been inconclusive so far. It can depend on many factors such as the result of your diagnosis that shows how severe your symptoms are.

What is ADHD indecisiveness?

ADHD indecisiveness or decision paralysis is a term used to describe repetitively going back and forth on decisions for no apparent reason, sometimes even over very small matters. Adults with ADHD might be more likely to experience ADHD indecisiveness due to ADHD impulsivity.

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